Everything you need to know about using Tend.
You can import contacts directly from your phone's contact list, or add them manually within the app.
Free users can track up to 10 contacts. Upgrade to Premium for unlimited contacts and additional features.
Yes. Tap on any contact and choose a reminder cadence — from weekly to every 3 months — based on how often you'd like to reach out.
Reminders arrive at the time you set during onboarding. You can change this at any time in Settings.
Tend will gently remind you again a bit later. After 3 skips, it pauses reminders for that contact for a month so you don't feel overwhelmed.
Add a birthday to any contact and Tend will notify you 3 days before and again on the day, so you never miss an important date.
No. Tend suggests a message for you, and you choose whether to send it via iMessage or WhatsApp. Nothing is ever sent without your approval.
Yes. The message is prefilled as a starting point, but you can change it however you like before sending.
Message tones let you adjust the style of suggested messages. Choose Warm, Casual, or Brief to match how you'd naturally talk to that person.
No. Tend never accesses your message history. Your conversations are completely private.
All data is stored locally on your device. We do not upload your personal contact data to any external servers. For more details, see our Privacy Policy.
Go to Settings > Reset All Data within the app. You can also delete all data by uninstalling Tend from your device.
If you can't find what you're looking for here, email us at support@usetend.org. We're happy to help.
Read our Privacy Policy and Terms of Service.